Good relationships don’t happen overnight and they don’t happen by accident. If you want to get beyond shallow, superficial relationships you’ve got to be committed to it.
You or someone you know is in a relationship right now and are hanging on by less than a thread. Do not give up. We have a miracle working God. The same God that raises the dead can raise a dead relationship if you’re willing to be changed.
But it takes a commitment. The Bible says this in Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times.” The word, “all” means even when it’s inconvenient, when you don’t feel like it, even when they don’t deserve it, even at personal cost. That’s what real friendship is all about. When you’re blowing it and you’re making a mistake, a friend doesn’t quit on you. A friend is in your corner when you’re cornered. And they see you through when everybody else thinks you’re through. They are there when you least deserve it.
Here’s the bottom line: You need people in your life to do the three thing I’ve written about in this series of blogs. But the only way you’re going to get these kinds of people in your life is you have to be that kind of person. You can’t expect other people to treat you this way if you don’t treat them that way.
Probably the best known Christian psychologist in America, Larry Crabb, wrote in his book Connecting, which I read in seminary and highly recommend, “When two people really connect something is poured out of one and into the other that has the power to heal the soul of its deepest wounds and restores it to health. The one who receives experiences the joy of being healed. And the one who gives knows even greater joy of being used to heal. Something good is in the heart of each of God’s children that is far more powerful than everything bad in the world. It’s there waiting to be released and work its magic. But you have to be connected.”